Being ok with the uncomfortable.

I was reading an article the other day about the lizard brain and how it is geared for our survival. Survival, not change. It’s why so many of us stay in out moded relationships that no longer serve us, or abusive ones that we feel stuck in and why we cling to jobs that undermine us, why we stay put rather than seek change. This has helped me understand so many of my past situations in life. The funny things is, life is full of change, its the only thing we can ever really count on (besides death and taxes) as it creeps along side us daily and sometimes hits us wham bam, when we least expect it.

Recently as I listened to someone tell me a story about a friend who got upset every time they drove to town behind an older (slower) driver,  I chuckled,  ‘jeepers if that’s all it takes to piss them off they would never survive in a city.’

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Its why I love shows like ‘I’m a celebrity get me out of here’  as they place contestants in uncomfortable situations which most of us are quietly fascinated by, watching their reactions, wondering how we would react in similar circumstances? I mean, if someone wanted me to bungy jump or jump out of a plane I don’t know what the hell I’d do, but give me a back pack and a few hundred $, I know I could survive travelling anywhere.

Knowing our survival brain craves comfort and familiarity, it stands to reason why we resist change so much. Why we cling to the known routes even though intuitively we are bored, there is little growth present and we long to go on an adventure. The reality is, if we step out into the great unknown, we are on unfamiliar ground. Anything could happen.

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And usually things DO happen. Yet if we believe that the Universe has our back (always) then what is there to fear? Sure, there will be a period of discomfort while we readjust out inner compass but as far as I can ascertain, we are always led to something far greater than we ever imagined. Staying calm is the key to navigating past our fears.

Researching for this blog I came across a great article called ‘How to make friends with your reptilian brain’ by Edwina Shaw.

“When we are living in a constant state of fear and stress we’ll keep working at a job we hate; we’ll do things we’re not proud of to get the sex we need, we’ll forget our childhood dreams, and the urges of our higher selves, because it’s all way too scary.”

I myself, like being at the edge of my comfort zone. Even though sometimes the mere challenge of finding a new place to live, organising finances, setting up again in a new city can feel overwhelming at times, I know if I stay calm, go within and consult with my inner well of tranquility –  all is well.

I also love this quote by Seth Godin

The lizard brain is the reason you’re afraid, the reason you don’t do all the art you can, the reason you don’t ship when you can. The lizard brain is the source of the resistance.”

 

 

Choices choices, so many choices…

Sometimes theres just too many choices and by the time I finish thinking about the pro’s and cons of all of them I’m totally confused.  Shall I stay here…. head up north to do Help X, go back to Sydney, (lots of nanny work there) buy a camper van, take off O/S and go live where it’s cheap, like Vietnam or Thailand. I could even teach English there. (Hmm, I don’t like being over the other side of Australia when my daughter lives in Bris so Vietnams probably out).

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Now whilst I want to be completely fearless, my practical voice constantly reminds me that being a member of the physical world, I need moolah to live on. Unless of course one day I may no longer have to worry about such matters IF I happen to be the one in a zillion who wins Division One – heck even div 2 will do …  (Tell her she’s dreamin). 

The one thing  I AM passionate about these days and want to continue studying is mediumship (while I dream about heading to the UK to study at the AFC.)  Recently I had dinner with a new friend and her hubby and had forgotten how bloody great it feels to hang out with people who get the medium world. We could just be ourselves, no need to sensor what we were explaining because we were all on the same wavelength. I also came across it recently with a couple of new girlfriends in Albany town 🙂 and yes, I miss my medium buddies in Qld and Sydney too….( don’t wanna leave anyone out…)

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I often remind people to go within, to sit in the silence, to listen to their intuition, that so many of us have trouble hearing. And I am aware that even the teacher becomes the student because when I’m in my mind – pondering on all these choices I have before me, how on earth am I going to be able to tune into my intuition? Its virtually impossible.

So lately I’ve been announcing to myself ‘listen up, today your not going to think about anything! Go to the beach, take a swim, clear your head young lady.’  It’s the only way I can get a reprieve from my ever questioning mind who wants a decision now, and wants to know what’s going to happen in 3 months time – assurances where there is none.

Our minds need space, peace and quiet in order to tune in.

The life of a gypsy is not a straight line. Neither is it predictable.
But, I’m kinda glad about that.

Keeps things interesting.

Til next blog….

 

 

 

 

Breaking the cleanse while adventures beckon…

I suddenly realised I haven’t detoxed simply from processed food (AKA crackers, bread, the odd chocolate for being ‘good’), dairy (ohhh cheese, fetta, how I love thee….) BUT Ive  had a detox from the evening news. Ignorance IS bliss.  I have absolutely NO idea whats happening in the World or in politics and to be perfectly honest I couldn’t give a toss. This detox has taken my awareness to another level and I couldn’t be happier.

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After day 3 of the juice cleanse my energy returned with a vengeance. I began to spring out of bed at 5.30 am, and was amazed at this change in my energy levels. I fell in love with local beautiful parks and was mesmerised by this tree.  Look at its majesty! 40 years ago I was mesmerised by a tree only if I’d smoked something green or eaten a mushroom of the magic variety. 🙂 If there’s nothing else that inspires you about this blog, I hope the above paragraph does. Get a juicer. (Or pull it out from out of the cupboard)! Don’t make excuses. Your life is precious. For those of us in our 5th and 6th decade, we have more time behind us than in front.  Nourish yourself from the inside and reap the benefits. P.S. One veggie juice is better than no veggie juice 🙂

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The reason for my sudden burst of energy is that during stage 2 of the cleanse (days 3 – 7) fats are broken down. Ketones are formed which suppress the appetite. The digestive system has a lovely rest whilst your amazing body begins the cleansing process on the organs and lungs, expelling toxins. Incredible. I have a whole new respect for Joe Cross the guy who juiced for 60 days. Highly recommend him –  www.joecross.com

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As I stood by the waters edge watching my daughter swim and frolic in the waves  just as she did nearly 3 decades earlier,  a wave of deep gratitude washed over me. I honestly, 100% felt incredibly fortunate to live in such an amazing country. We have no wars. We are SAFE. We enjoy gorgeous beaches, rivers and bays, wide open spaces, amazing national parks and glorious night skies. We have an abundance of choice surrounding us, fantastic restaurants, funky cafes with vegan alternatives to a meat burger and fresh farmers markets selling a wide range of wholesome and organic foods.

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I arrived in Brisbane 34 years ago, with a stroller, a 12 month old son and a suitcase. I had no idea how things were going to pan out… but there you go. Somehow they did! How blessed and grateful I feel for all the lessons, twists and turns, the joys, the challenges. Those magical moments of synchronicity where you have an ‘aha’ moment like a chance meeting with a new friend whose so much on your page it isn’t funny.  I’m grateful for my so called ‘failed relationships’ – they was rich in lessons! I’ve learned more from the things that didn’t work, from the things that did. Im constantly amazed at the many kind beautiful souls who crossed my path, who were so incredibly loving, caring, understanding and generous. More recently, giving me a space to sleep (the couch, air bed, floor). What an amazing ride it’s been and I love you all! So farewell Brisbane, Im off on a new adventure…

“What if everything you’re going through is preparing you for everything you’ve asked for”

 

 

 

 

Juice Cleanse Day 6

My daughter and I have accomplished 6 days drinking fresh home juiced combinations of beetroot/basil/tomato/carrot/kale/celery/cucumber/red cabbage/lemon ginger… I apologise in advance to any friends or family to whom I have come across like an evangelist! It’s just that when you gain instant sparkly energy results from something as simple as juice fasting you kinda want your besties to get in on it! In my excitement I forgot that not everyone is ready to take this step. The last detox I did wasn’t a fast, so this has been an incredibly enlightening and very different experience – more challenging.  I’ve watched various documentaries such as  Food Matters, Fat Sick and Nearly Dead 1 & 2, David Wolfe talk on Superfoods (U tube) and Joel Fuhrman ( U.S Dr) advocating a micronutrient – rich diet, plant based (yet again). None of these health experts are mentioning adding meat to your diet… hmmmmm. Food for thought?

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The first 3 days were hellish. Hunger pangs, headaches, low energy. We took to going to bed at 8 pm to get to sleep (which by the way, was fantastic). Days 4, 5 & 6 – I bounced out of bed at 5.30 am and walked 3 kms. Walked another 2 kms when my daughter arrived home after work followed by laps in the pool… I’ve lost weight, gained more energy and have my chin back… My daughter’s looking great too…. much better than a week ago and it’s obvious she’s lost weight. But it’s not just about the weight, it’s the ENERGY that we are experiencing. Tiredness has vanished during the day and I feel lit from within.

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It’s difficult to fathom that the USA spends nearly $12 BILLION advertising lollies, drinks and fast foods yet only $9.55 MILLION on healthy eating?  I guess we need to start asking ourselves why is that so? (Professor Sunder Millar for those who grew up in the 70’s… was that even his name?) … Anyway my point is, I for one, (and all change starts with ourselves) consciously choose to take more control over my health, embrace a plant based diet once again, include these amazing juices (look at the colour of that!) and stay away from anything processed. This includes not burgers which I happen to enjoy…. However, tempeh on the other hand is fine because its fermented. Yay for tempeh!

There’s many reasons we resist change ….emotional, addictions, (especially to sugar) boredom. We cling onto our bad habits as if our very life depends on them… It’s tough sometimes! Recently I read a article about people who struggle to give up smoking, it’s not because they’re weak willed but because they like to feel in control of something, which made sense to me as an ex smoker.

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I’m doing a happy dance with this colourful vibrant, full of nutrients salad… My new goal is to continue drinking juices and slide into Joe Cross’s 10 day reboot program because then I can consume salads like this… with some added seeds, legumes, nuts….. Such a good feeling to start a new year off… in the direction that you want to continue to go. (and grow)…. Whatever we do now in regards to our health will gain results, either we reap the benefits down the track or pay the price, it really is up to us.

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Juice Fast. Day one….

Well this has been no ordinary week. I had a day’s work, packed my suitcase for W.A. and spent time watching documentaries on healthy living, including Food Matters! My daughter and I have decided to go on a juice fast for health reasons. We watched the Joe Cross documentary ” Fat Sick and Nearly Dead.” Its a sobering story and provides a wake up call for us all. Basically he lost a ton of weight along with ALL his health problems by having nothing but freshly made juices, mostly vegetable.

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I’ve been juicing on and off for years, decades in fact. I love to start my day with a juice…. however, this is serious juicing, I’m taking it up a notch,  6 – 8 juices every day for the next 14 days. I don’t even know if I can do it but I’m certainly gonna try.

One of the things that’s hit me is how long the day is when you don’t eat actual food and believe me I’m only 2/3rds into the first day and I am craving food. Apparently this eases after about day 3 – 4. I’m also bargaining with myself (and my daughter) .. “maybe if we go well…. we could have/eat ….” Already we have discussed the probability that we may only last one week. Our goal is 14 days so we will see how we go. Sounds easy?

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GOODBYE to processed white foods including starchy (yummy) potatoes.

Headaches have already begun to come and go and I expect they may get a worse before the fog clears and that sparkling clean feeling overtakes us. The feeling when you know ‘somethings changed’.  Just as I’ve done 2 detoxes in the past, both allowed eating vegetarian food, so this is a LOT different. No food. Not one drop. Just juice.

I’m also realising why people stay on their medications, it’s actually easier to pop a pill than to put yourself through discomfort. It’s easier to put the responsibility for our health into the hands of the medical profession. I for one, like to question everything they have to offer me. When I was first nursing I remember reading a article about the worse foods we could possibly eat and was shocked to realise they were in most of the meals we were giving our patients every day. So why wait until we get sick and put our health, our very lives, in the hands of the medical profession/pharmaceuticals?

We can do things now and challenge ourselves by becoming uncomfortable in order to gain better health… I want to make the most of it and take control while I can… as Joe Cross says in his doc, if you eat foods made by someone in a white coat, you will one day end up seeing someone in a white coat. If you feel inspired and want to join us to embrace better brighter health, contact me. I will guide you as best I can….

The emphasis is getting rid of any processed food and welcoming in the “fresh is best” policy – namely- veggies… (only a little fruit because of the high fructose.)  In my mind I thought I ‘ate fairly well’. The reality is I still love cheese and crackers and that glass of wine at the end of a day. Now, that’s going to change big time. 

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HELLO to fresh natural produce……

Im always surprised at those cakes laden with icing that people still buy for morning tea’s, most recently at a work training day. I realise that most of us are struggling to keep processed foods at bay. One reason is simply because sugar is highly addictive. As is caffeine, (which is also in tea). Junk in = Junk out. Its pretty simple, yet we justify our choices and make up stories in our heads to protect us from the cold hard facts.

SO this is an experiment to kick off 2018. I am challenging myself by getting back to basics. For all the knockers, watch Joe Cross’s doco. He says he never felt better, in his entire life, after 60 days simply on juice! And that is good enough for me. Til next blog…

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Week ONE 2018.

I decided to write a blog each week in 2018….

I celebrated New Years Eve at my sisters, with a bottle of bubbly, a feed of crackers, cheese and olives, watching her hand feed the red king parrots.

IMG_3961.JPGA friend invited me to visit Noosa, how could I say no to a night there? We sat on her back verandah, watching an amazing sky full of shifting clouds creating amazing images. Her place was situated up high on a hill at the Junction and the vista was so pretty….

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A few days later another friend offered me a free healing session.  As it turned out, I needed to let go of some ‘stuff’ and after a cry, a voice dialogue exchange and energetic lift, I left feeling free-er, happier and on purpose, ready to face taking on Brisbane. Thank you Universe….

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I ventured onto my daughters…. she’s still on holidays until the 7th so it was a timely arrival helping her with a big house spring clean. Trips to op shops and garbage bins, dumping stuff no longer needed or used ready to start a new year all over again.

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On the weekend we drove to the Gold Coast, swam in the ocean, laughed heartily and breathlessly, tried to surf waves, got severely dunked whilst gulping mouthfuls of salt water. I choked on my laughter, got rolled around in the surf as if I were in a washing machine and once again felt the power of nature and the surf. Total respect.

Each morning I woke, Mister Frankie cuddled me as I sat out on the back deck sipping my early morning cup of tea…. wondering about what the new day would bring…. Heck, I think he even loves me a little by the look on that face.

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We also: cleaned her car, visited the car wash and went on early morning walks, power walked around a wonderful parkland nearby, up and down hills among greenery. There’s something nice about exercising out in nature instead of in a gym…

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My verdict of first week in January?

I loved it.

Maybe not for the high flying job and copious amounts of money….. but for the little things, spending quality time with my daughter, laughing on the beach, discussing the difference of personalities between her cats and which food best suits their needs in the supermarket aisle. Sitting with my sister, swapping massages as we watch Netflix…..

It’s these little moments, of genuine connectedness with another human being which gives life its value.

Any meagre word of advice I’d give would be :

Take the quality moments and savour them. Love them.

And don’t forget to be yourself :  REAL, authentic, honest….

Til next week xx

 

 

 

Spirit Whispers A Book Review

If ever there was a book that describes the highs and lows of a mediums life, “Spirit Whispers” is it. I couldn’t put it down and realised why Charmaine is so widely recognised (winning psychic of the year helps too of course) but well deserved! Apart from that, she shows where she is truly coming from, that place of unconditional love. No wonder she is so down to earth, it’s the stuff that she’s been through which has shaped her into the woman she is today.    Charmaine Wilson.jpeg

I recall how Silver Birch talks about ‘as low as a soul goes so correspondingly they can rise’. I love that because it gives everyone hope and the reassurance that you can grow into your fullest highest self no matter what you have endured.   https://thesearchforlifeafterdeath.com/2017/02/26/silver-birch-teaches-about-life-in-the-beyond/

Spirit Whispers shows this clearly in Charmaines life. I was reading those first chapters thinking to myself ‘what else could go wrong? Oh no! Not the loss of a child?’ But that was only the beginning, I don’t want to spoil the story so I won’t give away too much more but this is one book that I’m very glad I read. It teaches me that there are many ways up the medium pathway and at the end of the day, it’s our relationship with the spirit world that is important. Human teachers come and go, it’s how we help others and teach as we are inspired to do,  leading by example.

to read more about Charmaine ….. click on the link.

If everything happens for a reason, maybe we will look back on this life and see how it all fitted together like a proverbial jigsaw. So, if your looking for a holiday read, go to your nearest library and grab a copy of this remarkable ladies journey. Or buy a copy online then you have your very own to loan others. Stick with it til the end because it truly is an inspirational read, (especially if you happen to be a developing medium).  jigsaw .jpg