In memory of Guz

My sister in law passed over into the spirit world over Easter.

I saw her when I visited W.A. in February. I knew how ill she was, poor love. Cancer had well and truly ravaged her.  As she walked me to my car one afternoon, I felt we were saying goodbye. I hugged her fragile body and really couldn’t find words to say. Goodbye feels so final. ‘See ya later’ is what I usually say, but this day, something caught in my throat. I knew her time was severely limited and felt particularly sad for her kids and my brother who had been with her for many many years.

I reflected on primary school and meeting Guz who wanted to play in my netball team. Being captain, I had to make any necessary changes each week, listen to girls who wanted to play different positions and adjust the team accordingly. She always had an easy going laugh about her which I instantly warmed to. Who knew that one day, a couple of decades up the track, she would marry one of my brothers?

Over the years we drifted apart. I moved away. We lived in different states and at times it felt like we lived on different planets. People grow apart, interests change and some move on. Yet recently, when I was back home, I realised something hadn’t changed that much. We linked back into a past we could both recall. Times before children were born, before partners and divorces, and long before family fall outs over trivial issues.

And so as I sit thinking about Guz as we affectionately called her at school, I know that life goes on. We feel our sadness and accept our grief. None of us know how long we have. Anything can happen and I try to always be mindful of a quote I recently read….

“We are all just walking each other home.”

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The Healing Power of Mediumship

I listened to a medium speak recently about his struggles with being a medium.  The heightened sensitivity was a issue and as he threw his hands in the air said ‘who would be a medium – really? It’s not as easy as it looks.’

And i get that – 100% .  The heightened sensitivity to everything especially to other peoples vibrations, air craft noise that fly constantly overhead, traffic, sirens and walking around a shopping centre can totally drain you. Negativity can de-rail you if your feeling more vulnerable than usual and yep, it can be totally exhausting on every level. Throw in the mix our working lives which help support ourselves as we develop our spiritual gifts.

Yet, there are things we can actively do to help our sensitivity.  We can incorporate more tranquility into our lives, either by choosing our living environment wisely or sitting daily in meditation to help strengthen our selves. Preferably both. Taking time out is vital too, I know sometimes I’ve been too busy, running here, there, helping, working until there’s not much left in the tank.

And it’s so important to have our energy in tact! It’s our vital life force, our connection to the earth, our state of health physically and emotionally which needs to be kept strong in order to do this extraordinary work.

Make no mistake about it – it is extraordinary rewarding, poignant work when we begin to work with the subtle energies of the spirit world. It is soul to soul work. It is real. Listening for the whispers on the breeze, the intuitive insights, the flashes of feeling as the spirit realm attempt to communicate through us, the channel, to reach someone who is living. Someone who needs to know that life goes on.

As a medium, we have the unique ability to touch a human living soul on the deepest level. We are true healers. When you can bring through evidence that a soul is still around,  that a loved one continues to watch over you, walk alongside you, smile at your quirky ways, well, that is God’s work. Nothing more, nothing less.

A medium demonstrates the unique power of healing, not of the body, but of the soul.  There is no greater gift as far as I’m concerned. They can also be powerful conductors of healing energy too, should they wish to help heal bodies. For me, it was the message of hope that was given after my brother died by Doris Stokes that was my life changer.

There is no greater meaning to life than living in spirit, having a knowledge of spirit and helping those that need to know that their loved ones are closer than they know. So to all my fellow mediums out there, please don’t give up on your journey. Your gift is needed.

And the journey is worth it.


Dates n Mates

I never envisaged being single in my 50’s. Sometimes it feels like a strange experience, especially at night, going to bed alone. Other times, I relish in the fact that I’m so free. My inner joy is palpable during evenings when I drive home from a bachata class so enthused that I’m single!

No having to check in, out, answer to, debate, no one to get irritated at me for any reason… I don’t have to tip toe around someones bad mood or try to figure out what’s wrong (again). No struggle between him and my loved ones or being put in a position to choose. The freedom from tension is fantastic I must say.

Yet, there are times when I am lonely, where I ache to be with a loved one again, someone who ‘gets you’ someone who has your back no matter what. A mate to confide in, laugh with, lay with. There is this double edged sword to battle, freedom v loneliness.

I know I don’t want to ‘settle’.  I don’t want to be that person who says after a few years with their mate  ‘well, we are friends that’s about it and i’m comfortable with our friendship.’  What, no intimacy? I cannot imagine a relationship without intimacy, closeness, candlelight and fulfilment. Yet is that an unreal expectation after a decade or two together?

Meanwhile, everyone has an opinion. Some have told me ‘why bother? enjoy your own life, make that your priority’ or,  ‘why bother with a relationship, just have “special” friends and leave it at that….

And so, I date a bit. I go through periods where I date a few people,  get bored and stop the whole process for about 3 months.  I read blogs on dating who advise to go on 10 dates at least before deciding whether someone is relationship material but most guys I date hint at intimacy a lot earlier than 10 dates! I suspect that bit of advice is a fairy tale.

Just yesterday I bumped into a man standing by his car. He smiled and said something about his wife. I asked ‘how long have you been together?’ and he said ’54 years’.

What? 54 years – are you kidding? What’s your secret?

He looked at me and said ‘total loyalty’.  A person feels when your loyal and totally behind them.’ I couldn’t agree more. Meanwhile, I’ll continue to ponder what qualities I really want to see in another person whilst developing those qualities within myself. As for loyalty, it seems like common sense really, but you know what they say about that? Common sense isn’t really all that common……




Breakin Good & Shades of Hope…

I have found a show that I cannot wait to watch next week on Australian Story. It follows on from my last blog about people facing adversity and overcoming immense *stuff*…  Overcoming challenges like kicking drugs, booze, cigarettes.

I’ll put the link here. I hope it inspires you. Pass it onto someone who might get something from it. The full program airs next Monday night 10th April.

Breakin Good   This is my story

We have to look at other ways to deal with addicts and I think this guy’s no nonsense advice (from what I’ve so far watched) hits the proverbial nail directly on the head.

Another show I’ve been watching is a show on Netflix that is helping over eaters, bulimics and anorexics face their disease in a 28 day live in program. It’s fascinating to watch and see the universal problems and issues that underlie so many of us human’s lives –  here it is

Or this young lady who is a powerful inspiration herself… Elizabeth Smart

Enjoy, leave me your thoughts or comments, they’re always welcome in loni land. xx