- Caring for another constantly reminds me to be more present.
- Work hours flexibility – some carers work in 24 hour care, shift work or short shifts 1 – 4 hourly home visits.
- Variety of clients – especially if you are doing home visits, you can see 4 – 5 clients a day
- To work well you have to be able to connect. To connect, one needs to be authentic, compassionate.
- Older people have some amazing stories – they really are a living history book.
- Care work is extremely fulfilling, being their advocate and ‘right hand woman’ is a beautiful role to fulfil for someone.
- I love introducing healthy foods and drinks into their diets.
- The work is also like a personal assistant, knowing what day the physio, gardener etc is coming, assisting with appointments.
- I love being a cheery presence each morning and a reasurring voice at night when I tuck them into bed.
- There are times when challenges arise, providing an opportunity to look within, to practise kindness in the face of adversity, to stay humble (your in someone else’s home) and to be a loving presence for someone facing their mortality.
There is an aspect of the weekend workshop I just attended that I failed to mention. And it’s a HUGE aspect. In a way I’m glad I missed it because it deserves it’s own post. It’s what happens when you are touched by spirit, when you realise that your father IS giving messages through another person to you. When your mother comes through and says something so familiar that you know undoubtably it is just what she’d say.
When I was 19, and saw Doris Stokes, I had been in a terrible place after my brother committed suicide. I honestly didn’t care whether I lived or died. Life lost all meaning. I felt lost, adrift, depressed.
Yet, after being chosen from the audience and Doris’s remarkable evidence that my brother WAS around, I walked out of that hall 10 feet tall, simply knowing his spirit was very much alive.
In 25 minutes my whole world changed.
I could face life again. It had a purpose and just maybe I’d survive this ordeal.
On the weekend, there was a young lady among us who’s best friend had lost her son. He came through me 3 mediums, different evidence in each appearance but the overwhelming message was ‘tell mum I love her’. Isn’t that amazing? This woman had the courage to show up to a medium course which she had never done before and then finds this beautiful young man’s spirit very much around, organising things behind the scenes for the purpose of reaching his beloved mother. How powerful is that.
And this is why I love mediumship.
It has the immense power to heal and to lift ones spirit.
What a wonderful incredibly humbling experience it is for a medium to bring through a child for a grieving parent. I can think of no other gift which can touch a person to this extent. And this is why I continue on this pathway of learning. Simply to help. To bridge together the two worlds. To give assurance when a bereaved feels lost and depleted.
As I write this, I know from my own experience nearly 40 years ago, how true that is. Since I have opened my heart to spirit, as both my parents has since passed on, it’s made the process just a little bit easier.
As they say, knowledge is power.
Til next blog
I adore mediumship workshops, especially when they are reasonably priced. Colby Rebel is a New Jersey medium who came to Australia to tour with our ex brisbane based medium Ryhs Winn Davies. I was very excited to see Ryhs again having sat in his circle a few times. If you’re not in Brisbane have no fear – Colby and Ryhs are heading south to Sydney, then to Melbourne.
All budding mediums who are open to trying new techniques, it does not matter what stage you’re at, if you want to push yourself a little more and ready to take the next step – or you are brand new and want to understand why things are ‘happening’ when your healing someone – this workshop is for you!
The weekend was full of evidential mediumship, we were all at various stages of development and it was a thrill to see the tentative steps taken by a couple of new mediums starting out. A ton of love and encouragement filled the room, tempered by Colby’s sense of humour and strict ‘Come on, I want you to go for more’. Even though I still felt wobbly standing in front of new faces, I seemed to handle it a little better! 9 years ago I wouldn’t even ‘get up’ so I applauded all the new people giving it a go. I am sure they even surprised themselves at the accuracy of information they were receiving. You have to applaud such courage and faith!
Colby and Ryhs are a formidable team and I can’t wait to see them work on platform together. They are kind, coming from an extremely heart felt space, similar to the way I feel when I’m with Tony Stockwell, that beautiful all encompassing feeling of love. You feel safe to venture forth, nurtured and encouraged.
Here is a link to Colbys website – https://www.colbyrebel.com. Her fabulous sense of humour made us instantly feel ‘at ease’. Which is what we need when starting out, loads of gentle coaching as we take those baby steps and move past the fears of what if I make a fool of myself and all the other zillion negative thoughts we have going on.
Ryhs has recently moved to Holland, to begin a new life with his partner and adorable baby girl and those from his circle certainly feel his absence. I am so happy I took the opportunity to do a weekend with him and continue to grow and push through my uncomfortableness standing out in front of ‘strangers’. His relaxed attitude, simple explanations and numerous stories made for a fun weekend of learning. You can read more about him here https://www.rhyswynndavies.com
If you missed the weekend, you catch Ryhs and Colby at the Brisbane Spiritual Church next Saturday night by booking with Sue Williams 0416145476. You can also call Sue to find out details about their Sydney and Melbourne schedules – Feb 2019 – Enjoy!
Patience. There is no fast route to being a true honest medium. It is tried and true, slow and steady. Be wary of any advertisement or teacher whom preaches otherwise.
Look after your body. If you are a medium for service as opposed to money, wouldn’t you want to be a healthy vessel in which to work closely to spirit? We owe it to our team to play our part, that is, keep our psychical body in tip top shape.
Being wrong – actually one of my teachers says you have to let the ego go, allow yourself to be vulnerable. This is actually quite difficult to do in the beginning.
Be gentle on yourself. So many times we beat ourselves up for getting one or two things ‘wrong’ instead of the 6 /7 things we got right. Relax. This is about serving the spirit world, sometimes we interpret the impressions a certain way when we need to learn to ‘give what we get’.
Have fun! Be willing to have a go. Be willing to fail, only then are you closer to strengthening your link! Sitting in meditation or quietude mode, being part of a circle, learning your craft takes time. Allow the process.
And as another teacher says ‘Surrender to the Blender’
There is one thing I’m passionate about and that is mediumship. My interest in this field began when my brother died at 24. I had been staying at Bribie Island in a hut with friends and was woken up in the middle of the night. I couldn’t figure out ‘what’ I was hearing, as it sounded like a swarm of invisible bee’s buzzing around me. The next day I was told the devastating news. I was 19 and felt like the rug was pulled out from under me. Watching my spiral downward, a nursing colleague gave me a book on Doris Stokes. That book turned my life around. I couldn’t put it down and read it over night. Imagine my surprise when this same colleague told me ‘Doris is coming to Brisbane, let’s go see her’.
3 months slipped by and as I drove to see Doris perform on stage, once again, those invisible bees were in my car. It HAD to be my bother. I began to talk to him ‘if this really is YOU please come through tonight’. Imagine my utter surprise when Doris chose me from the audience and began a 20 minute reading, describing my brother, in detail, giving message after message that he wasn’t ‘dead’ his spirit was very much alive.
This experience impacted me on a very deep level. I left Doris that night with an inner peace that I cannot begin to convey. It changed the course of my life. Helped me to begin to heal my grief. It was that powerful.
My own mediumship development crept up on me slowly, whilst massaging people in my 30’s. I suddenly began to ‘sense’ sometimes ‘hear’ messages for the person. This slow and gentle unfoldment has continued to this day 25 plus years later. I have encountered many incredible experiences working with this gentle energy which is the spirit world.
It’s true when they say mediumship takes many years to develop and we never stop learning or growing. Occasionally, someone will show they have the gift early on, but that seems to be a rarity. However, it does occur. I feel they are picking up where they left off in a past life. For most of us, this is a development that you cannot rush. One learns many lessons, one of which is patience. Martin Twycross says in his wonderful course ‘The Confident Medium” that sitting in meditation/ quiet contemplation is the one route towards developing your gift. You need to have a relationship with your own spirit first, before you can touch anyone else. He also says that no effort to sit in the quiet is every wasted. The spirit world are very busy on the other side attuning to our vibration.
Words cannot possibly convey the feeling one has during times when you connect with a spirit person. It is like nothing I’ve ever experienced and I’m always so grateful and humbled that this truly magical experience has occurred, yet again. Bless you all.
Til next blog, Love Loni x
I have decided to write some featured articles about working mediums and teachers whom I admire. The first one is Martin Twycross. I’m so excited that I decided to bite the bullet and en-roll in ‘The Confident Medium’ online course because I can tell you, mediumship is far from easy and confidence is something many of us struggle with. https://www.martintwycross.com
Martin Twycross hails from the UK and is a working medium and Arthur Findlay Trained and Accredited teacher. I loved hearing his personal story because he came to mediumship as an atheist! He wanted proof and he wasn’t about to settle lightly. As such, the world is now blessed with a truly authentic reliable medium and knowledgeable teacher. He explains how important it is, when we first begin on this journey to find a reliable teacher, (online and offline) one whom we can sit in circle who can guide and help us along the way, as well as offering valuable feedback. https://www.arthurfindlaycollege.org
We need to find some way of attuning, through meditation, contemplation, call it what you will, sitting in the power is a mediation practise but basically it is where we attune to our own SOUL so we can then spend time with the spirit world -its a pre requisite – to touch our own spirit and it’s a extremely valuable thing – but at the end of the day, you have to find what works for you.
The first module of his course reminded me of a a few truths such as:
“We have to fail a huge amount of times before we succeed, once we learn to move and shift and blend…. we know we can repeat it because we have done it before. We need these mistakes to help us to progress so – embrace mistakes, challenges and problems because it’s ALL part of the learning process.’
And “the better mediums keep pushing forward, there is always so much more within ourselves to be developed. Our confidence grows the more we believe we can do it, the more trust we show, which comes with experience and practise.”
Martin also talks about the ‘imposter’ syndrome where we tell ourselves that mediumship seems to work “every now and then” but we don’t really KNOW if it’s us doing it and we feel sure one day someone will say “your a fraud” and we will think about giving it up…. many (sadly) have given up due to this pressure and internal dialogue. Martin explains it is because we are so sensitive we get easily demoralised and don’t focus on the 10 things that were taken instead we focus on the 2 things that weren’t!
Martin also advises us to : Move to a place of peace with your past. Accept exactly where you are in this point in time, through pure self acceptance. Remember that ever experience contains value, we can look at our past and take the benefits then release it, in so doing we create a space for a new positive future which starts now….
All up, I thoroughly recommend any courses by Martin online, the convenience of this is fantastic, you can lay in bed in your PJ’s listening to a class! He is also extremely affordable which in this arena can sometimes be hard to find. So, if you are interested in developing your psychic or mediumistic gifts, check out the link Martin Twycross. com. Also, I am including a fantastic u tube clip with Martin speaking about the spirit world an interview from the podcast WE DON’T DIE ….. Enjoy! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KrUieeHROPs
Til next post, Love Loni x
TIS me again, medium, mother of 2, sister, daughter, lover of nature including sunrises and tall tree’s, avid carefree dancer, vegetarian cook, changer of plans, (I now can blame it on my 5s ) loyal friend but hopeless appointment keeper. Plans change.
I love my friends with fiery passion and fierce loyalty! If you’re family AND a Friend, I love you double. Believe me, I have given my all, trusted people I considered friends and been severely side swiped, shaken but unbroken.
I am grateful for it all, true friends and not so true friends. I’ve needed to experience every aspect of this human situation and for that I am eternally grateful. I have learned such valuable lessons, hard ones, lessons of the heart, of trust and vulnerability.
With another year approaching (2019) I am pondering my next challenge.
You know a gypsy can’t keep still for long. And another year makes me question once again, where I am at ….and … where do I want to BE?
What is that One / Two things that I can’t live without experiencing MORE OF?
I am a carer, I work with people who are close to the end of their lives. I can tell you one thing I’ve learned this year, the accumulation of Money (although yes great and necessary to have) matters little in the end. Facing the inevitable, quietly, they realise all their worldly possessions, the expensive paintings on the walls…. they cannot take A thing with them on the next part of the journey, It seems so obvious, yet for most of us we still accumulate ‘stuff’ and have a hard time shedding what we no longer need.
Sobering isn’t it?
So I pose this question to you, the same question I ask myself at this time of the year….
“Are you going to slide into another year without questioning, happy to acquiesce and settle, not realising nor accepting that your fullest shiniest potential is still at arms length…? AND as you sigh deeply, realising that in order to get there you MUST let go...as your mind protests ‘hey, now hang on a minute… who are you to tell me I have to let go of the known, the comfortable, in order to reach for the stars? Why can’t I sit here enjoying my comfort zone while I sort of reach hap-hazedly for the stars? Why CANT I have my bloody cake and eat it too ?
Oh darling ones, Does life need to become down right rugged in order to teach you truth? To help you to let go in order to truly acquire knowledge, understanding, self awareness?’
So my challenge is this : I crave more medium experiences, to help even more souls to connect with the spirit realm. It’s scary but there is no challenge if it’s not scary! Standing up, speaking up, being vulnerable and connecting with the magical realm of the spirit world but this is the realm that ignights my soul and stretches my vision. It gives my life such a rich purpose and I truly love it from the inside out.
Life demands we be brave. That we love fully,
and that …
We stay humble and open …. to our highest calling and inner pilot light – our truth.
I met with friends today. We talked about all things mediumship. Past experiences. The unexplained. One asked how many times we have actually SEEN spirit. I replied ‘twice’ in the sense of seeing with my own physical eyes. It was in a particular house where I lived, as I sat on a lounge something caught my eye, as I turned to look, this spirit woman slid into the door. Just like that. Another time she stood in her long old fashioned dress in the kitchen. One night my son stayed over, he was up late in the study and the next day said ‘a woman walked by last night – I thought it was you, but when I got up to investigate, you were in bed asleep.’ He had seen her too.
I will share something else, I dreamed of my sister in law last night. Kerryn. Dreams are another way spirit beings can touch us because we are more relaxed in the sleep state and it is somewhat easier for them to make contact. In my dream she was smiling, relaxed and we spoke about being at school together, many moons ago.
I last saw her a couple of years ago and felt intuitively she would be passing over around Easter…. (which was about 4 months away at the time). I have felt her essence from time to time and imagine my surprise when one of my class mates in circle bought her thru. As I sat nodding confirmation at the evidence of her, I suddenly realised they shared the same NAME! Spirit have an uncanny sense of humour at times!
This is why I love being in a medium circle, we not only have an opportunity to connect with our loved ones who have passed, but its also through the connection to our deeper selves, our higher spiritual self which leaves my mind stilled and my spirit touched. Mediumship is a constant invitation of trusting our own unfoldment.
I tried to explain recently to the caretaker who I briefly chatted to and whom asked me ‘what do you get out of coming here?’ I wasn’t sure he would understand the intricacies of mediumship so instead I replied ‘peace’. I said ‘It is the one time of the week that I put aside to still my mind and connect with my inner self which is divine, strong, invisible.’ There are more layers to it than that, but in a nutshell, this is what I love about meeting with like minded souls, we sit together in peace and in awe of the spirits whom draw close, wanting to be known, their love rekindled, in our precious lives.
Seeing that spirit woman all those years ago led me onto a pathway of learning about why we are here, where do we go when we pass over and how come I saw this woman? It is an ongoing journey which never ceases to amaze me, which is humbling and keeps me open to life’s constant little surprises….