Scepticism is Ok

I had to laugh the other day.

I was talking to my daughter about all things mediumship. She doesn’t say much but I know she’s thinking a hell of a lot under the surface so I asked her ‘what do you think of this. all the stories I tell you about spirits?’  I watched with interest her facial expressions as she chose her words with care ‘well I’m not altogether sure about any of it to be honest mum, but, I know you. And you are sincere and honest so if you are experiencing these things there must be something to it.’

Years ago, after my brother died and I had seen Doris Stokes, I was so incredibly excited, I shared this story with everyone I came across,  Most peoples eyes glazed over as they made a hurried excuse to get away from me.  I was often left feeling ‘why can’t they see how incredible this all is! We don’t die!’

Being skeptical is ok. In fact Silver Birch often says to ask for proof – and if something does not sit right with you, then to reject it.

It’s not until your soul is touched by spirit that things become more ‘real’… Silver Birch also speaks about knowledge as the rungs of a ladder, that we continue to progress in this world and in the next. Just when we think ‘we know’ we realise that so much more – higher knowledge that awaits us. We are souls evolving into higher planes of awareness.

Staying open is the key, I think.

Staying humble is imperative.

Being in wonderment of the amazing ability to actually communicate as mediums is something else.

A glorious gift to help others along the pathway of life.


When life challenges us

Recently, a friend called me. Her life in chaos. With all the ‘help’ out there she didn’t know who to turn to.

I listened and spoke from my heart, soul and past experiences, things that I too had faced. Mostly I did a lot of listening, which is what we need when we things turn to mud and we can’t see the wood for the trees.


It got me thinking that this site is not only about mediumship, but about learning to cope through adversity, feeling that we are not alone and build our emotional intelligence to enable us to cope with the changes that inevitably drift into our lives.

For without change, there is no growth. And as much as I too, prefer a life of quietude, I’ve learned that through those tough choices, major forks in our pathway, when life threatens to change so dramatically, we wonder how are we ever to get through each day?

Here’s some tips I’ve put together:

  1. My dear mum used to say ‘One day at a time’. When I was going through my second marriage breakdown and was full of anguish, her quiet voice soothed me by saying those few words. It helped me to remember, ‘oh right, I don’t need to solve ALL my problems at once,  keep breathing and make it through TODAY.’
  2. Sometimes we need to ‘Let go and Let God’. Letting go of control is a huge issue for many of us. We have so little control in the bigger scheme of things.
  3. Do not forget yourself in the chaos. Make time to have a facial, go to the beach, sit on a park bench, what ever YOU need that gives you valuable peace.
  4. Find a trusted person that you can download to, open your heart with. Someone you are completely safe with and who has your back, no matter what.
  5. Turn inwards, connect with your higher self, write, draw, paint, create your way out of chaos. When I was in a womens shelter(for 3 months) they organised art therapy classes which turned out to be incredibly helpful, healing and soulful.

Our lives do have meaning. Repeat, our lives have meaning and purpose.

Through grief, through pain, through change, through chaos, a brighter light and understanding will follow. Trust in your journey. Trust in your self that you have this.

Truly you do.

Love Loni xx




A healing reading ….

I’m going to share a personal experience which occurred once in a circle I sat in. Every time you sit, something ‘else’ extraordinary happens but this one really struck me, because I felt as though I went into a very deep space and it is the first time a spirit person sort of sat on me ? Usually I feel very hot and sense them standing beside me but this man went the extra mile!

Firstly we listened to 3 songs, all extremely moving, emotional, evocative. The moment the first song was under way I almost felt like the room was moving. I stayed with the music but could feel something quite unusual happening.

I sensed this man, over- shadowing me, in my force field.  I asked him who he was for and instantly seemed to answer my own question ‘oh his daughter is to my right . It’s more of a sense of knowing, not actually ‘hearing’… As the music continued I *felt* his feelings. They were a bit heavy, like he was depressed and very lonely. He walked me through a house and sat at a desk. I *felt* he had been writing.


I asked why he was so sad, I could feel this heavy vibration. He replied ‘Life was never the same after she left.’ I asked him to show me a happier memory and just like that, in a flash of a second, I was watching him on his boat, the wind blowing his clothes and hair, his tanned face relaxed being out on the beloved ocean.

He showed me a time when he would pick up his daughter when she was little and put her on his lap and cuddle her whispering to her ‘my princess’. These moving images were so incredibly powerful.

As the songs came to an end, I thanked him for coming. I realised I had to wait about until 10 other people spoke before I could.

I explained the whole scenario. We were supposed to be doing psychometry but this man was so strong I had to voice the images I received.

At the end, the teacher asked me who I thought the message was for and I looked to my right, about 3 ladies along and chose one.


She confirmed it was her father.

His life was never the same after her mother died.

He was writing his memoir when he passed over.

He was happiest when he was on his boat and lived there at the end of his life.

A simple message and validation of a fathers love for his daughter, his message that he was still around…. And this is the power of mediumship, how it can alleviate grief and facilitate healing from within.


Practising mediumship

Recently, I was listening to a medium give a public demonstration. As a rule, we encourage and support each other in the mediumship world.  However, as students, we also need to watch and evaluate, listen and learn.  How does a medium act when they receive a ‘no’ (or a few no’s)? Are they are under pressure with 50 pairs of eyes watching them? Are they fully blended with the spirit they are trying to bring through or are they sort of grasping at straws as a means to cover up their anxiety and chatting away nervously? Demonstrating is an art in itself.


I know it is not easy being ‘up front’ before an audience. It is something I certainly am not proficient at. As such, I go along to watch, observe, taken mental notes and appreciate the difficulty in demonstrating. Believe me, you learn something from every demonstration and for me,  I am noticing the difference between an inexperienced/ experienced medium.

Of course it is natural to enjoy the attention and accolades when a medium gets things ‘right’ but as I watched this medium work I couldn’t help but feel the evidence was being reached – psychically. It was like ‘grabbing’ at the information, consequently it was hit and miss and did not flow…. I left feeling a bit blasé. When I deeply questioned the why’s of it, I realised I hadn’t been touched by any messages bought through, unlike times in the circle I attend, I’m blown away by the depth of feeling that emanates during a connection. It may be brief, but it is FELT. Surely this is the true purpose of a demonstration? To imbibe the deep feelings and reverence that the spirit world have to portray? There is a subtle difference between gaining information psychically and gaining it directly from the spirit world. For an inexperienced medium, it is difficult to tell at times.

I’ll give you an example. A few years ago I went to pick up a book on Europe as was planning a trip there and straight afterwards, went to have a reading. I had no sooner sat down when she said ‘Oh you’re off to Europe?’ She picked that up as it was in my energy field. Psychically. In mediumship, we aim to connect to a spirit being.

When I watch Tony Stockwell, (who’s an extremely experienced medium) you can tell he is very blended with the spirit he is bringing through and this blending is what makes such an extraordinary difference. For those few moments as the spirit blends with his aura, moves in close, there is a duality which is almost palpable as a beautifully woven story begins to evolve. Tony delivers the messages with sensitivity and thoughtfulness that is very endearing to watch. Here he is … Other mediums that have this gift and are publicly demonstrating in Australia are Samantha Duly (Perth), Christine Morgan (Sydney), Val Hood (Sydney), Sonny Burgess (Brisbane) and my circle teacher Bev Greaney (Brisbane). There are many others but these are the people whom I’ve personally had readings or teachings with and have come to admire and respect.

I guess this is why the mediums of old remind us that we are at the stage where we are at and each of us must serve our apprenticeship.

We can only keep practising and stay humble. Don’t believe the hoo hah that others may bestow upon you. I have discovered,  the greater the medium the more humble they are because they realise an important point, it’s not about them, it’s about serving the spirit world and keeping themselves out of the way.


Me with Tony Stockwell in Perth, a year ago.

Ca la vie. xx




10 things I love about working as a carer.

  1. Caring for another constantly reminds me to be more present.
  2. Work hours flexibility – some carers work in 24 hour care, shift work or short shifts 1 – 4 hourly home visits.
  3. Variety of clients – especially if you are doing home visits, you can see 4 – 5 clients a day
  4. To work well you have to be able to connect. To connect, one needs to be authentic, compassionate.
  5. Older people have some amazing stories – they really are a living history book.
  6. Care work is extremely fulfilling, being their advocate and ‘right hand woman’ is a beautiful role to fulfil for someone.
  7. I love introducing healthy foods and drinks into their diets.
  8. The work is also like a personal assistant, knowing what day the physio, gardener etc is coming, assisting with appointments.
  9. I love being a cheery presence each morning and a reasurring voice at night when I tuck them into bed.
  10. There are times when challenges arise, providing an opportunity to look within, to practise kindness in the face of adversity, to stay humble (your in someone else’s home) and to be a loving presence for someone facing their mortality.

cristian-newman-63291-unsplash.jpg    ‘After all, we are ALL just walking each other home.’ 

The healing power of mediumship

There is an aspect of the weekend workshop I just attended that I failed to mention. And it’s a HUGE aspect. In a way I’m glad I missed it because it deserves it’s own post. It’s what happens when you are touched by spirit, when you realise that your father IS giving messages through another person to you. When your mother comes through and says something so familiar that you know undoubtably it is just what she’d say. 


When I was 19, and saw Doris Stokes, I had been in a terrible place after my brother committed suicide. I honestly didn’t care whether I lived or died. Life lost all meaning. I felt lost, adrift, depressed.

Yet, after being chosen from the audience and Doris’s remarkable evidence that my brother WAS around, I walked out of that hall 10 feet tall, simply knowing his spirit was very much alive.

In 25 minutes my whole world changed.

I could face life again. It had a purpose and just maybe I’d survive this ordeal.

On the weekend, there was a young lady among us who’s best friend had lost her son. He came through me 3 mediums, different evidence in each appearance but the overwhelming message was ‘tell mum I love her’.  Isn’t that amazing? This woman had the courage to show up to a medium course which she had never done before and then  finds this beautiful young man’s spirit very much around, organising things behind the scenes for the purpose of reaching his beloved mother. How powerful is that.

And this is why I love mediumship.

It has the immense power to heal and to lift ones spirit. 


What a wonderful incredibly humbling experience it is for a medium to bring through a child for a grieving parent. I can think of no other gift which can touch a person to this extent. And this is why I continue on this pathway of learning. Simply to help. To bridge together the two worlds. To give assurance when a bereaved feels lost and depleted.

As I write this, I know from my own experience nearly 40 years ago, how true that is. Since I have opened my heart to spirit, as both my parents has since passed on, it’s made the process just a little bit easier.

As they say, knowledge is power.

Til next blog

loni x

Colby Rebel and Ryhs Winn Davies fantastic mediumship workshop.

I adore mediumship workshops, especially when they are reasonably priced. Colby Rebel is a New Jersey medium who came to Australia to tour with our ex brisbane based medium Ryhs Winn Davies. I was very excited to see Ryhs again having sat in his circle a few times.  If you’re not in Brisbane have no fear – Colby and Ryhs are heading south to Sydney, then to Melbourne.

All budding mediums who are open to trying new techniques, it does not matter what stage you’re at, if you want to push yourself a little more and ready to take the next step – or you are brand new and want to understand why things are ‘happening’ when your healing someone – this workshop is for you!

The weekend was full of evidential mediumship, we were all at various stages of development and it was a thrill to see the tentative steps taken by a couple of new mediums starting out. A ton of love and encouragement filled the room, tempered by Colby’s sense of humour and strict ‘Come on, I want you to go for more’. Even though I still felt wobbly standing in front of new faces, I seemed to handle it a little better! 9 years ago I wouldn’t even ‘get up’ so I applauded all the new people giving it a go.  I am sure they even surprised themselves at the accuracy of information they were receiving. You have to applaud such courage and faith!


Colby and Ryhs are a formidable team and I can’t wait to see them work on platform together. They are kind, coming from an extremely heart felt space, similar to the way I feel when I’m with Tony Stockwell, that beautiful all encompassing feeling of love. You feel safe to venture forth, nurtured and encouraged.

Here is a link to Colbys website – Her fabulous sense of humour made us instantly feel ‘at ease’. Which is what we need when starting out, loads of gentle coaching as we take those baby steps and move past the fears of what if I make a fool of myself and all the other zillion negative thoughts we have going on.


Ryhs has recently moved to Holland, to begin a new life with his partner and adorable baby girl and those from his circle certainly feel his absence. I am so happy I took the opportunity to do a weekend with him and continue to grow and push through my uncomfortableness standing out in front of ‘strangers’. His relaxed attitude, simple explanations and numerous stories made for a fun weekend of learning. You can read more about him here

If you missed the weekend, you catch Ryhs and Colby at the Brisbane Spiritual Church next Saturday night by booking with Sue Williams 0416145476. You can also call Sue to find out details about their Sydney and Melbourne schedules – Feb 2019 – Enjoy!