The Power of Touch

How time flies!

I took some time out after my birthday in June, to move to the rainforest for a few weeks to have some peace and quiet, do some writing and catch up on so much reading I want to do! Yet, what happened? Within a week, I got a cold/flu and was laid up in bed for 7 days. That wasn’t what I had in mind, yet it was also good, because I cleansed, drank lots of veggie juices, sipped mugs of lemon water, brewed my ayurvedic tea – see recipe here if your keen and slept. All night and most of each day! Talk about a whole body reset cleanse.

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Now that is not exactly MY view from my room but it’s pretty awesome! I had a lot of time to reflect, I borrowed a book from the library called the Clarity Cleanse by Dr Habib who is 20 years post cancer so I was very open to reading what he had to say. He wrote a lot about emotional cleansing and how important it is for us to frequently release any pent up resentments instead of carrying them deep within. He believes cancer is a build up of anger and resentment. He also talks a lot about our lives being like an empty cup.

What fills up your cup? 

Do you want to go hiking? Play music? Be intimate with someone?

He writes “Being intimate releases oxytocin, touching or sexual, research shows people who experience the highest oxytocin (through being intimate) have the the lowest alzeihmers, the lowest cancer rate, the lowest autoimmune diseases.”

Having been a massage therapist myself for many years I know full well the power of touch. I can actually sense a persons energy change after a massage, sometimes my client would look younger as they left my room which always amazed me. Something as simple as a massage, so imagine something as intimate as sex, being healing, or preventative to disease. We don’t usually discuss such things in our society about this, do we? 

Wisdom of Bartholomew

Yesterday I took myself down to northern NSW, sat on the edge of a cliff and admire the ocean. It’s my go to place when life has thrown me a curve ball. Escape to the ocean. Sit and simply ‘be’.

On my way home, I was rummaging through a op shop and came upon some books. Lo and behold one book jumped out at me, with its torn cover, worn pages, I picked it up, held it for a moment and asked ‘what do I need to read’?  I don’t know why this still surprises me but it does… The Universe continually teaches me that anything I am thinking about or requiring deeper understanding of, always comes into my awareness before long, via a book, a song, a sign, whatever.


This was the paragraph that I turned to …

‘Many of you put yourselves into stressful positions. That is the wisest thing you can do if you want to become a Master. It is possible that those of you who have very safe and comfortable lives are in that state because you have not allowed yourselves to courageously follow those inner promptings that would lead you into areas of difficulty. Perhaps the reason your life is sweet and smooth is not because you are Enlightened but because you have all the chessmen set up on a board to your satisfaction and nothing is awry. You either have to move your pieces or your Deeper Self will move them for you. You can only hold your status quo for so long.’ 

This was the wisdom I needed to hear to help me recover from a situation that through me up in the air for a week or so.  We tend to go into varying degrees of self pity, blame, fear, loss, yet without situations (and other humans) rocking our lives where is the growth? Silver Birch continually reminds us that the pearl does not evolve in an oyster in still waters. It’s a difficult concept at times to accept isn’t it? Who likes the turmoil? Yet let’s not lose sight of the beauty that evolves from this… I’m sure that one day it will become clearer how those difficulties have paved the way for our souls growth.

Til next blog,

Love Loni x

Making choices that affect us and others.

We are all challenged from time to time with big life changing decisions. Which way do we go? Recently I had a big decision to make where I needed to weigh up a persons actions versus their words. Not easy to do, when the heart wants what it does.

As a medium, we are naturally sensitive. We feel deeply.  I’ve always known Im on a pathway of learning and accept that there is always work to be done within. As we attain one level of understanding we look ahead and realise there is more to unfold, more  growing to do and shedding of the old, releasing what no longer serves us.

During this transition of allowing a ‘love’ to move out of my life,  I was realising how beneficial it would be to spend time in nature.  Theres so many beautiful spots on the east coast we are spoilt for choice.  I thought about Stradbroke Island, how I love the wildness and the sheer beauty of the island but also I allowed the Universe to guide me.

Suddenly (within one day) a friend rang me about renting a cabin in the rain forest.

So, for winter, I am retreating into a place of quietude, beauty and tranquility, close to the gorgeous coastline, for a time of contemplation and focus. I am creating my own soul, body and mind health retreat where I can juice cleanse, rest up and write. I want to immerse myself in nature and begin feeding myself more positivity for positive energy elevates us to another level.


And am so grateful for this opportunity.

Til next time,

Love Loni x


Scepticism is Ok

I had to laugh the other day.

I was talking to my daughter about all things mediumship. She doesn’t say much but I know she’s thinking a hell of a lot under the surface so I asked her ‘what do you think of this. all the stories I tell you about spirits?’  I watched with interest her facial expressions as she chose her words with care ‘well I’m not altogether sure about any of it to be honest mum, but, I know you. And you are sincere and honest so if you are experiencing these things there must be something to it.’

Years ago, after my brother died and I had seen Doris Stokes, I was so incredibly excited, I shared this story with everyone I came across,  Most peoples eyes glazed over as they made a hurried excuse to get away from me.  I was often left feeling ‘why can’t they see how incredible this all is! We don’t die!’

Being skeptical is ok. In fact Silver Birch often says to ask for proof – and if something does not sit right with you, then to reject it.

It’s not until your soul is touched by spirit that things become more ‘real’… Silver Birch also speaks about knowledge as the rungs of a ladder, that we continue to progress in this world and in the next. Just when we think ‘we know’ we realise that so much more – higher knowledge that awaits us. We are souls evolving into higher planes of awareness.

Staying open is the key, I think.

Staying humble is imperative.

Being in wonderment of the amazing ability to actually communicate as mediums is something else.

A glorious gift to help others along the pathway of life.


When life challenges us

Recently, a friend called me. Her life in chaos. With all the ‘help’ out there she didn’t know who to turn to.

I listened and spoke from my heart, soul and past experiences, things that I too had faced. Mostly I did a lot of listening, which is what we need when we things turn to mud and we can’t see the wood for the trees.


It got me thinking that this site is not only about mediumship, but about learning to cope through adversity, feeling that we are not alone and build our emotional intelligence to enable us to cope with the changes that inevitably drift into our lives.

For without change, there is no growth. And as much as I too, prefer a life of quietude, I’ve learned that through those tough choices, major forks in our pathway, when life threatens to change so dramatically, we wonder how are we ever to get through each day?

Here’s some tips I’ve put together:

  1. My dear mum used to say ‘One day at a time’. When I was going through my second marriage breakdown and was full of anguish, her quiet voice soothed me by saying those few words. It helped me to remember, ‘oh right, I don’t need to solve ALL my problems at once,  keep breathing and make it through TODAY.’
  2. Sometimes we need to ‘Let go and Let God’. Letting go of control is a huge issue for many of us. We have so little control in the bigger scheme of things.
  3. Do not forget yourself in the chaos. Make time to have a facial, go to the beach, sit on a park bench, what ever YOU need that gives you valuable peace.
  4. Find a trusted person that you can download to, open your heart with. Someone you are completely safe with and who has your back, no matter what.
  5. Turn inwards, connect with your higher self, write, draw, paint, create your way out of chaos. When I was in a womens shelter(for 3 months) they organised art therapy classes which turned out to be incredibly helpful, healing and soulful.

Our lives do have meaning. Repeat, our lives have meaning and purpose.

Through grief, through pain, through change, through chaos, a brighter light and understanding will follow. Trust in your journey. Trust in your self that you have this.

Truly you do.

Love Loni xx




A healing reading ….

I’m going to share a personal experience which occurred once in a circle I sat in. Every time you sit, something ‘else’ extraordinary happens but this one really struck me, because I felt as though I went into a very deep space and it is the first time a spirit person sort of sat on me ? Usually I feel very hot and sense them standing beside me but this man went the extra mile!

Firstly we listened to 3 songs, all extremely moving, emotional, evocative. The moment the first song was under way I almost felt like the room was moving. I stayed with the music but could feel something quite unusual happening.

I sensed this man, over- shadowing me, in my force field.  I asked him who he was for and instantly seemed to answer my own question ‘oh his daughter is to my right . It’s more of a sense of knowing, not actually ‘hearing’… As the music continued I *felt* his feelings. They were a bit heavy, like he was depressed and very lonely. He walked me through a house and sat at a desk. I *felt* he had been writing.


I asked why he was so sad, I could feel this heavy vibration. He replied ‘Life was never the same after she left.’ I asked him to show me a happier memory and just like that, in a flash of a second, I was watching him on his boat, the wind blowing his clothes and hair, his tanned face relaxed being out on the beloved ocean.

He showed me a time when he would pick up his daughter when she was little and put her on his lap and cuddle her whispering to her ‘my princess’. These moving images were so incredibly powerful.

As the songs came to an end, I thanked him for coming. I realised I had to wait about until 10 other people spoke before I could.

I explained the whole scenario. We were supposed to be doing psychometry but this man was so strong I had to voice the images I received.

At the end, the teacher asked me who I thought the message was for and I looked to my right, about 3 ladies along and chose one.


She confirmed it was her father.

His life was never the same after her mother died.

He was writing his memoir when he passed over.

He was happiest when he was on his boat and lived there at the end of his life.

A simple message and validation of a fathers love for his daughter, his message that he was still around…. And this is the power of mediumship, how it can alleviate grief and facilitate healing from within.


Practising mediumship

Recently, I was listening to a medium give a public demonstration. As a rule, we encourage and support each other in the mediumship world.  However, as students, we also need to watch and evaluate, listen and learn.  How does a medium act when they receive a ‘no’ (or a few no’s)? Are they are under pressure with 50 pairs of eyes watching them? Are they fully blended with the spirit they are trying to bring through or are they sort of grasping at straws as a means to cover up their anxiety and chatting away nervously? Demonstrating is an art in itself.


I know it is not easy being ‘up front’ before an audience. It is something I certainly am not proficient at. As such, I go along to watch, observe, taken mental notes and appreciate the difficulty in demonstrating. Believe me, you learn something from every demonstration and for me,  I am noticing the difference between an inexperienced/ experienced medium.

Of course it is natural to enjoy the attention and accolades when a medium gets things ‘right’ but as I watched this medium work I couldn’t help but feel the evidence was being reached – psychically. It was like ‘grabbing’ at the information, consequently it was hit and miss and did not flow…. I left feeling a bit blasé. When I deeply questioned the why’s of it, I realised I hadn’t been touched by any messages bought through, unlike times in the circle I attend, I’m blown away by the depth of feeling that emanates during a connection. It may be brief, but it is FELT. Surely this is the true purpose of a demonstration? To imbibe the deep feelings and reverence that the spirit world have to portray? There is a subtle difference between gaining information psychically and gaining it directly from the spirit world. For an inexperienced medium, it is difficult to tell at times.

I’ll give you an example. A few years ago I went to pick up a book on Europe as was planning a trip there and straight afterwards, went to have a reading. I had no sooner sat down when she said ‘Oh you’re off to Europe?’ She picked that up as it was in my energy field. Psychically. In mediumship, we aim to connect to a spirit being.

When I watch Tony Stockwell, (who’s an extremely experienced medium) you can tell he is very blended with the spirit he is bringing through and this blending is what makes such an extraordinary difference. For those few moments as the spirit blends with his aura, moves in close, there is a duality which is almost palpable as a beautifully woven story begins to evolve. Tony delivers the messages with sensitivity and thoughtfulness that is very endearing to watch. Here he is … Other mediums that have this gift and are publicly demonstrating in Australia are Samantha Duly (Perth), Christine Morgan (Sydney), Val Hood (Sydney), Sonny Burgess (Brisbane) and my circle teacher Bev Greaney (Brisbane). There are many others but these are the people whom I’ve personally had readings or teachings with and have come to admire and respect.

I guess this is why the mediums of old remind us that we are at the stage where we are at and each of us must serve our apprenticeship.

We can only keep practising and stay humble. Don’t believe the hoo hah that others may bestow upon you. I have discovered,  the greater the medium the more humble they are because they realise an important point, it’s not about them, it’s about serving the spirit world and keeping themselves out of the way.


Me with Tony Stockwell in Perth, a year ago.

Ca la vie. xx